New to online dating? Trying to find the man or woman of your dreams
through the virtual world? You need to have a well-written personal
ad or dating profile.
People don’t believe me when I tell them that most problems
with not enough quality responses to an online dating ad can be fixed
just by writing a clean, informative profile full of good content.
And then I take them to an online dating site and randomly start reading
out profiles, and they cannot believe that there are such a large
number of terrible ads! Maybe it is this overvalued notion of spontaneity,
of writing whatever comes to your mind, letting it flow - which leads
you to write gibberish in your ads. Say goodbye to any success in
online dating with that. Think what would happen if NASA engineers
became spontaneous.
So stop your online dating shuttle from crashing and read the following
examples of common mistakes in dating profiles. Have a laugh, but
be careful… your own profile may have bugs too! (All examples
are real)
..."I am a funny, witty person with a
great sense of humor...."
Funny and witty people never write that directly. Instead of saying
this, add a touch of humor to your profile.
..."I am sexy, flirtatious,... I like
kisses on my back, full body massages from my boyfriend/girlfriend..."
Keep sexual innuendos out of your profile. You will have plenty of
time to exchange raunchy emails if you are addicted to writing sexual
stuff... but in the first impression, keep them out. Would you say
this to a guy or a girl in a bar who you met for the first time? If
not, then don't say it in your ad either.
...."I am an honest, spontaneous, creative,
imaginative (..other personal adjectives) person..."
Very few people think they are not, this is very subjective (same
as the fact that 80% people believe that they have an IQ above average!).
Avoid using personal adjectives in your ad. Define yourself concretely-better
to say I am a guitar player in a band, I write novels, or I am a cardiologist
than I am creative or spontaneous.
...."I was just bored, so wrote my profile
here..."
A negative attitude. Instead, say, "I am new to this..."
...."I like taking walks by the ocean,
or watching TV, or going camping with my friends..."
Unimportant details. Most people like these things, and these are
hardly good criteria for finding a partner (it is unlikely you won't
like going out with someone just because they don't like walking the
beach or watching TV with you). Your hobbies is where you put these
things, and more specifically-e.g. snow-boarding, or playing basketball.
...."I am looking for a REAL man/woman,
with all the letters of REAL..."
Sounds like you have had some bad experiences in relationships, but
that's over now. Come with a positive attitude to online dating, ready
to meet new and interesting people.
..."I want a guy who can make me laugh..."
Comes across as negative-you sound slightly depressed if you need
someone just to make you laugh. There's plenty of stuff on the TV
to make you laugh, and you are not looking for a joker, you are looking
for a boyfriend, a mate...remember?
...."I like blonde women, but if you are
dark-haired and very beautiful, write me anyway, maybe you can change
my mind...."
Turn-off to both blonde women and dark-haired women. Don’t
play both sides of the coin, generally backfires. Better not to say
anything if you are not sure.
...."I am not interested in guys who are
bitter and boring..."
No one is. Use the Ad mostly to tell what you like, not what you
don't like. Just as in real life, agreeability is a must have in first
introductions.
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Article by John G., Founder Dating Profile
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