Everyone experiences flirting at some stage in their life
whether it is intentional or not. Flirting plays a key role in finding
a very special person which could result in a successful relationship,
therefore the importance of knowing how to flirt and recognising flirting
signs cannot be underestimated. Flirting signs are similar for both
men and women, although some are suited more to men and others are suited
more to women.
Not all flirting signs are obvious; some are very subtle
and are often missed, so it is vital that you learn how to recognise
when a woman is flirting with you otherwise you could miss out on a
perfect flirting opportunity. Remember that when a woman flirts with
you, it’s not just cleavage being pushed towards you or puckering
lips that you should be looking for, other signs include smiling, eye
contact and laughing.
Flirting signs occur in a variety of forms including facial
expressions, body movement and conversation. A flirting sign can range
from winking to the way in which you speak and often you may not even
realise you are performing a flirting sign.
The first thing a woman will look for is a warm friendly smile, so
the importance of smiling while flirting cannot be underestimated. A
smile shows that you are a friendly guy and approachable. A facial expression
comprises of many other flirting signs including; winking, plenty of
eye contact, an extended gaze, biting lips, exposing your teeth, touching
your face, running your fingers through your hair, reddened skin tone,
an arched eyebrow and of course that all important smile. An obvious
flirting sign to perform is a wink, often best suited to being used
across a room. Some women find winking cheesy, but others are flattered
to be winked at and it can be just as effective as a smile, although
if you overdo it you may end up looking like you have an eye irritation.
Another obvious flirting sign is holding the gaze with your flirting
partner a little longer than usual. This gives you the opportunity to
see if they are looking at you, but try not to stare. As with winking,
if you overuse any of these facial expression flirting signs, you could
end up looking daft. Use them in moderation and only use a couple of
them. Choose the signs you feel most comfortable using and practice
them by looking at yourself in a mirror, even if it makes you feel silly.
It is important that you keep your posture as tall as possible while
flirting, whether you are sitting down or standing. A tall firm posture
will show that you are confident and will also make you feel confident,
as well as help to show off your masculine physique. Your body movement
can give away many flirting signs, again without you even realising
it. These include; holding your chest outwards, sitting facing a woman
with your legs open, leaning towards a woman while maintaining eye contact,
touching a woman’s hand/arm/thigh, copying their body movement,
offering to place food in their mouth, exposing the palm of your hand,
playing with your hands and possibly their hands and rubbing your wrists
up and down. If you choose to casually touch a woman you are flirting
with on the arm, hand, shoulder or thigh, make sure she is comfortable
with you doing so and don’t overdo it otherwise you risk her becoming
uncomfortable. As with the facial expressions, use these body movements
in moderation otherwise you risk appearing anxious and uncomfortable.
Simply select a handful of these signs and practice them. It is advised
to only use the signs that feel natural to you and you feel comfortable
using.
While flirting with a woman who is obviously feeling sexy and giving
you lots of flirting signs including pushing her breasts in your direction
and exposing some flesh from her thigh, remember that she may only be
flirting and not necessarily looking for a sexual encounter. Sometimes
people, both men and women, give the impression they are only after
one thing, but this is not always the case. Some people don’t
realise when they are taking flirting a bit too far, so it is usually
best to be a little reserved at first, at least until you know the other
person a bit better.
Conversation should be kept to topics you enjoy and are interested
in. Although it is advised to avoid deep conversations such as politics
and religion, it doesn’t really matter what you talk about as
long as you are both enjoying the discussion. While flirting with a
woman you may find yourself copying the tone and speed of her voice
and find yourself laughing at what she says, possibly slightly more
than usual. Also, if you are in a group of people and you wish to talk
to a particular woman, you will find yourself singling her out and specifically
aiming questions at her. On the other hand, if you find you are being
singled out then you are being flirted with by her. If you find yourself
laughing a lot at what a woman is saying, try to tone it down a little
otherwise you may give the impression of not taking the flirting moment
seriously and not actually listening to what they say.
Flirting is all about finding a balance between going overboard with
the flirting signs and appearing completely uninterested. It is also
about reading the signs of the person you are flirting with. Whichever
flirting signs you choose to use, the most important thing to remember
is to relax and have fun. The more you practice these flirting signs,
the more natural flirting will become to you and will hopefully result
in you having many successful dates.
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